Good friend to autistic person is:

Be kind to you be you. Be kind when you no mask. Be kind when you nonverbal. Be kind when you meltdown.

Be say true words. Not be lie. Be say one thing, DO same thing! Be make promise, KEEP PROMISE. Is good!
Is problem, unforeseen, not can do promise? Is ok, but make up for if can? Is be do promise next time? Good friend!

Be learn you communicate. Read you words when not can speak loud, maybe? Pay attention and learn. Maybe at first be confuse. But then know you more, learn more. Be communicate with you how you do! Maybe see how you stim, is stress-stim, is happy flap?? Can learn what mean.

Respect you limit. You be overwhelm? Is sensory overload? Is spoons low? Is not understand silly neurotypicals, nonsense rule?? Is confuse when neurotypicals say one thing and mean other? Is friend be kind, be understand. Friend say: Ok. You not have do thing is too much.

Be happy when you happy stim!
You be see GOOD SPARKLES??? You be feel GOOD texture??? You be happy, you stim? Is friend is happy too!!! Is friend is happy for you if you feel good, even if friend not understand why texture SO GOOD or why feel good make you want to move that way.

Make you safe food! Make you food when overwhelm not can make own food!

Friend like parallel play? Just be near, be do different thing, be happy!

Is happy you make gift! You give gift you think friend like. You no give gift society tell you give. Friend give thing YOU like!

Friend is listen, you say boundary. "No touch" - no touch. Friend be thankful you say boundary, make easier be good friend! (Or you no SAY boundary but communicate your own way.)

Friend is listen info-dump some time Friend is proud you know many thing! Friend maybe like learn?

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Most important thing find out who friend, who not good friend:
CAN UNMASK???

Is make you wear mask all time??? Is make you feel not safe??? Is make you feel small? Is make you feel like not be allowed be small?? Is make you feel not be allowed be you??? Is make you automatically be mask???

is BAD.

Maybe is body tell you, too. Listen body. Body be pain, be not want move, not want talk??? Maybe person be bad??? Find out, listen to self.

You know. You know in your heart and in your bone what is good and not. Good friend, family, teacher, coworker (etc) make you help find out! Not make you be more confuse! Not make you be more like mask! Help you be more YOU.

Maybe need be alone. Sometime can hear own thought better. Sometime out in nature, alone, or at night look at star. Help hear inner wisdom, *nodnod*

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One thing I want say now is autism acceptance month:

Autistic people be abuse many time. Is BAD. Is happen me too.
Red flags of how notice abuse:

Say one thing, but DO OTHER THING.
Autistic people say thing, mean thing. Not like lie. Many autistic people hear other people, think: They not lie. Many autistic people trust other people word. But some people LIE (even some autistic people). Look at what they do. If is different from what they say, then is problem.
Abuser: "I care about you" But make you do all work??? But not like you when you be you??? But be mean??? But make you feel bad??? Make you go meltdown or trigger on purpose????

Only they feeling and need and wish be important, not yours.
Again, people lie and say "You same important as me" but look at what DO. You have feeling? Wish? Need? And what they do? They find reason to ignore? They find reason say you bad? They derail, make be about they they they???

Admit they be abusive in past. Uh oh!!!!
Say "other people accuse me be abusive but they lie"
Ok CAN be true... but is red flag!!!! Pay attention pattern, see other flag? Not feel safe? Then GO AWAY. They not be owed you be friend. You be feel safe!

False promises.
They say they be better. They be better ONE TIME or maybe 2 week. Then be bad again. Or be bad in other way than before. Then blame you, you not explain proper. They be bad, not you!!!

Neglect. They be family, be spouse, be friend? That promise be help you when need!!! Then you need help, they not be help??? Is BAD.

Exploitation. They be accept you help them, then not help you same way? BAD. They be say "we mutual aid!" but not DO same as you? BAD.
They help when first meet, make you trust them. Then find out, you always keep promise, you always trie help - they stop be help. They start be lie. They let you do work, them not work. That how they do!

Other people warn you of person. Other people say "that person lie to you" or "that person not good for you" Sometimes is true. You pay attention, you figure out who lie.

Isolation. Abuser ISOLATE YOU from real friends!!! Is DANGER. Is sometime just be forbid see friend, say you not allowed. Adult do this to kids. is BAD. Sometime partner do and say "You make me jealous" But you allowed FRIENDS!!!!!
Sometimes abuser is be sneaky!!!! Most time abuser is be sneaky! Is lie! Maybe not say "I forbid" but say "I not like :s" and say "please feel sorry for me". or maybe abuser sabotage. Make problem happen, make crisis happen when want see friend.

Escalation. Is person have problem? Is crisis? Is argument? Is trigger? Then what person do - person make worse? When you calm person down, when you make solution be happen, when you say how make thing better – do person listen? Or do person ignore? Or make new problem? Or get mad at you for be make thing better????
Person want problem be solve or want you be spun around, be feel bad, be stressed out, be have solve problem but not get to end of it??? Is pattern, see, look, can find pattern? Some abuser want you be spun around all time and not want problem be solve.

Order you around. Is person try tell you how do thing? How be? Try tell you "you this, you that" and you not agree? But person not listen you, person be sure only they know? BAD.

Look at PATTERN. Abuse is be PATTERN. If can: use autistic brain see pattern?
See friend pattern, too! Find good friend, family that way!

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